Most normal think being a parent requires sacrfice. Red-flag behaviors can indicate that a relationship is not going to lead to healthy, lasting love. And guess what? That means it will be awesome once you're ready!
Cole, who's a little more freewheeling, has her boyfriend stay over frequently, but they've been together for a few years. For a plethora of reasons including my experiences, in my dating world someone with small children is an automatic no. Kids like the security of having their friends around.
I had a kid out of wedlock 7 years ago. We were the modern definition of Togetherness. The oldest is 26 and is still living at home.