Since exercise consumes the majority of my non-working hours, a great deal of my casual human interacton happens in gyms. However, when straight men put their arms around me like "we're buddies" I dislike that. Then I asked him whether a gay man flirting with him would be okay.
It made me even more curious. But seriously, if I can't have you romantically why are you trying to get into my pants? The gaze will likely be appreciated and returned. Jay A. There is no formula, no surefire way to make sparks fly. It works the other way too.